Can Ex be friends?

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A couple of days back while I got to opportunity to be a judge at one of a toastmaster event. My ex suddenly dropped a message and asked if we could be friends. 

Normally under any circumstances I would have agreed to be his friend. However, this is completely different in a sense that I was already in a serious relationship with my current bf. So my question is, can Ex remain friends? 

As I was younger and slightly immature, I used to think that everyone would be friends even if you have ended things with your other half. However over the years and especially through opinions from my partner and friends, I came to realize that is only possible IF:

1) Both parties outgrew each other

2) Both parties ended it mutually

3) It wasn't a serious relationship 

Having said that, not being friends with your ex doesn't meant you still have feelings for them. It's just you need to respect your life and especially your current relationship. 

There are many different type of friend in this world. Occasionally, you may drop a hi or season greetings with your ex but nothing more. Scrap the talking and meeting on a regular basis because that is never going to happen. 

So for my answer,  NO it is not possible to be friends with your ex whom you once had a serious relationship with. Not only does it abominate your current relationship, but you might complicate your life as well. 

The Journey Continues

Is it too late to update? Haha I know I've been missing in action for donkey's years but I'm back because my beloved one encouraged and coerced me to continue writing this blog. Thus I shall. 

I have to honestly thank this special person for always believing in me and being there for me in whatever I do in my life. With his constant encouragement and patience, it's no wonder we're like fireworks exploding into the night sky. 

We recently past our 20th monthsary together. I know it might not mean much to some but for me it's a huge achievement. Despite us loving through distance, we're always there for each other.

I participated in International Speech and Table Topic Contest for Phoenix Toastmasters on the 28/2/2016. I didn't manage to win speech but got runner up for table topic contest. It was indeed a great experience in terms of overcoming an obstacle of speaking in front of strangers and able to differentiate between the experienced speakers.

This amazing woman came down to KL for a short trip. So I had the utmost privilege to visit her and take her around KL. Jen joined us after for drinks. I've known them sine Trinity years and it's so nice to know that we haven't changed one bit. 

Lastly, I have to emphasis on this brunch cafe, Yellow Brick Road at Jalan Batai, Bukit Damansara. I've been there twice and on both occasions I still love their food. The fact that they are extremely generous with the portion and flavour blows me away. I urge everyone to give this cafe a try, a word of warning is you either go before 10.30am or after 1.00pm.